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Happy Sunday and Happy Father’s Day to all the great dads out there! I hope everyone enjoys spending time with their dads and granddads and show them how loved they really are. My father died at the age of 48, I was 19 years old and I wish I had the chance to tell him just how grateful I am to have had him in my life. My dad was “old school”, very strict…very strict, ran the household with a stern hand. We knew when he was getting upset with us just by “the look”.

Many times I was at church and may have been cutting up; no matter where he was in the church if I looked up and saw him – he was always staring at me and I knew – straighten up! We knew what standard he held us to and we did everything we could to meet that standard. It was NOT always easy!!

My dad never grabbed me up and hugged me, told me I was pretty, nor did he “swoon” over me. Before he spanked me, he would say, “If I didn’t love you, I would not do this”. That pretty much was the extinct of him telling me he loved me, but I never doubted his love for me, not one day before or after his death. He never had to speak the words, I just knew. I knew no matter what my dad would always be there for me. He could not tell you my favorite color, what music I liked, or what teachers I liked or disliked at school, but if I had a game at school, you could bet I would see his truck off in the distance and he was always there!

He was the dad that took us to parades and town events. He was the dad that would practice catching a ball or shooting the basketball till you got it perfect. he was the dad that taught me how to load a gun and to shoot just as well as my older brothers. He was the dad that told me to always make sure I could hold my own and never depend on a man to take care of you.

He taught me what it meant to be a good citizen, to treat others like I wanted to be treated, to have a good work ethic, to stand for the right and not to waiver. He taught me you are only as good as your word and to stand true to your morals and beliefs.

My father was not the person in our family that taught me who Jesus was. He did not teach me one thing that was biblical in 19 years. He taught me how to be a good, productive person, but the one thing I needed to know most – he could not teach me. He could not teach me the way of the cross. He could not teach me how to pray, what it meant to be saved, he could not tell me about Heaven and he could not teach me about Hell. Nor could he explain to me how NOT to go to Hell. The MOST important thing a person needs to know – he could not teach me. He could not teach me because he was not taught these things. He never got saved until about 10 years before he passed away, he would read his Bible and try to learn as well as he could.

I had gone to church with my mother since the day she brought me home. She was the spiritual leader in our home, she was the first one to tell me who Jesus was and she was ultimately the only who won me to Jesus. My father never grew much in the Bible and he was a simple man when it came to all things spiritual. But I believe he is in Heaven today and one day I will get to see him again. That comforts me, knowing he is living in paradise along with my grandparents and others who have gone on.

Being a father is a multitude of responsibilities, just like being a mother is. What one parent could not teach me, the other could. They worked in unison raising their kids and taught us differently, but effectively. In today’s world, parents are so much different than 40 years ago. One thing has not changed, you must love your child enough to teach them about death, Jesus and what he did for us at the cross.

I was reading an article from www.allprodad.com and thought I would share 10 verses that talk about fathers/parenting. This not only applies to dads but mothers also. If not for my mom, I do not know where I would be.

1. Be your child’s “First Teacher” (Proverbs 22:6)

It’s our responsibility to “train up a child in the way he/she should go.” Not the school, not the government, but you—and that means dad.

2. Dads need to exemplify a good life (2 Cor. 3:2-3)

Scripture teaches that who we are and how we live is like a “letter from God.” Our kids read that letter, every day.

3. Provide for your family (I Tim. 5:8)

For those of you struggling to find work, don’t get down on yourself. This idea is more about your heart and desire. Being a father who provides covers more than rent and food. As dads, it’s our responsibility to make sure our family’s needs are addressed across the board. Be encouraged and look for ways to give to your family even when it is hard to financially.

4. Good dads discipline their children (Proverbs 13: 24)

The one who loves their children, Scripture says, “is careful to discipline them.” This is also about proactive leadership in our homes.

5. Dads spend time with their children, and it’s not empty time (Deut. 6: 6-9)

The Scriptures are clear that dads must engage their children in the kind of deep, heart-to-heart conversations that impart more than facts, but teach wisdom. Schedule some regular “conversational walks” with your children, one on one. Family time that counts.

6. Compassion is a “dad” characteristic

A father has compassion for his children. Psalm 103:13 points out, “so the LORD has compassion.”

7. “Put your money where your mouth is”

Well, not in those exact words. But James 1:22 instructs us to not only be “hearers” of God’s word but “doers” also.

8. Don’t provoke your children (Ephesians 6:4)

The alternative, the Scripture suggests, is to raise them to be young people of faith.

9. Dads never give up on their kids

The story of “The Prodigal Son” (Luke 15:20-24) is the story of a father who never gives up hope and is ready to receive his child back with open arms. We can discipline, we can hold accountable, but we must never give up.

10. Dads pray for their children (1 Chronicles 29:19)

King David prayed for his son, Solomon. Children who know without any doubt that their dads pray for them every day own a deep sense of love and security.

**Borrowed from : Allprodad.com

Being a parent in this day and time is harder than ever. I am very thankful that my children are on up in age and I do not have little ones to raise. I pray for all the parents reading this blog today and especially for the single moms that are doing it all. I once was there and know the struggle is real! If not for the Lord, I do not know how I would have made it through those difficult years. God bless you girls and I hope you have a fantastic day with your families!!

White House Black Market

Barry was not up for pictures, well – he was willing to take pictures, just not being in a picture. I will get one sooner or later though LOL!

I stopped by WHBM during their sale and found some really cute blush and neutrals I had to grab up. The Floral Wrap Hi-Lo Blush blouse was gorgeous, even more gorgeous in person! I found the perfect white skirt, it goes to my knees when standing straight up, and the material is SUPER nice and good quality. The skirt is a size 8 and the blouse in the picture is a size 10, but it was a bit big. I’m still figuring out my sizes for different labels since I went on FWTFL.

Skirt // Blouse

My all-time favorite item was these Cargo pants, these pants fit perfect and they are not your normal cargo pants! They are made with a lightweight stretch fabric and when you slide them on, you know you are putting on a quality item. I cannot express how much I loved these pants!! I actually wore these pants out for dinner with a black camisole, a lightweight black jacket, and leopard print sandals. They are a cream or ecru color and are on sale for $59.00 right now. You can get an extra 20% off online if you sign up for the Newsletter HERE. I give these pants 10 stars out of 10 and I haven’t said that about any item I have shown on the blog – so you girls know I LOVE these pants!

Happy Sunday everyone! What are you girls doing today? We have minimal plans, Barry and I have celebrated already, so I guess it’s going to be all about Chase and Brooklyn today! Have a great day and thanks for stopping by the blog!

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  • sandy

    Jumping on quick while one grandchild napping and the other resting while watching a movie and me…having a cup of coffee. We took Terry to Pizza Hut along with his folks. Now he is spending some time in the field spraying corn! Guess a farmer has to do what a farmer has to do. Beverly, my folks were not the hugging type either and I think that’s why I know hug my kids when I see them and when we say goodby. When they were kids, that was one thing that I made sure we did…hug them and tell them we love them. Every parent has different ways they show their love to their children, but I know mine was definitely by touch and I’m sure it’s because I didn’t have that growing up even though I know my parents loved me. Such a cute outfit from BM. There is one in the city but I don’t get to that area very often.

    • Beverly

      You are so right!! I think way back in the day, dads were a lot different than they are now. Barry is not an affectionate person either, but boy I am!! Lol. I hug my kids, when they let me, all the time. And Brooklyn is my cuddle buddy!! Tell Terry Happy Father’s Day!!❤️

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